Topic 2: Picking Favorites

Amanda:
Ok. Picking favorites happend all the time. In school it was based on stereotypes, in life it's based on cultures and I can say this with honesty because I see it everyday where I work. I'm a hostess at a chinese place. There are rules for everything and I've seen waitresses (both chinese and american) get chewed out for doing even the simplest thing wrong. Like putting the glass water glasses in the top of the wash basin with other dishes (they go in the bottom one so they don't break as easily). But once we got an older chinese waiter things changed . . . such as he does everything wrong (the water glass thing included) and when broughtup to the boss he says to 'stop picking on the new guy and let him work' Total culture thing 'cause the waiter is older male (even older than the boss) but not fair for those that got chewed out for the same thing. There really is nothing you can do about the favorites thing other than keep doing what you are doing. Eventually people will learn, although unfortunately they may not realize the lesson until they lose you.

Autumn:
It may sound wrong, but picking favorites in your family or at work is natural. A person can't help the fact that they like one person better than they like another. If someone has such a problem with that, maybe they should work on being a better person. Or not, because if someone favors someone else over you, it could just be that their personallities match and yours doesn't. And you can change your personality, but that person still won't favor you anymore than they did before because they already know how you originally are, and then switching up the way you act can cause suspicion. But picking favorites is nothing to get all bent out of shape over, because everyone does it, consiously and unconsiously.

Elane:
I am guilty of picking favorites. I am actually ashamed because I hate it when people pick favorites and treat me bad. I picked favorites for this one family of kids I babysat because one of them was way more behaved and listened compared to the other kids. Otherwise, I really don't think picking favorites at work is good. Everyone has their flaws, but they also have something they are better at than others. Don't pick favorites at a job, instead why not balance out what everyone is good at and that way nobody is better than another and get picked as a 'favorite'.

Laura:
I think Autumn is right, some people click and others don't but I still can't say that I approve or that I'm going to sit back while it's done to me.
At the same time, I have preferences which are similar and I am guilty of subconsious favoritism. I'm not ashamed of it, and I try to fix it when it's noticed, but it isn't right and can't be stopped.

Sierra:
Well picking favorites might happen alot and nobody ikes it but it happens when you pick your friends, you favor them more than other people. And when in dating you favor things about them to the point you find them attractive compare to someone you hate. When picking cloths and shopping. It's everywhere and people don't notice. Although we don't like it. And being raised in this culture it's not to great we pick favoritism in race, sex, hair, clothes, everything. I personally like it and dislike it because it makes you who you are and individual although favoritism is not.
Not advised, we still pick favorites in the moments we should remain nutral.

Laura:
I have very little more I can say anymore.

*the conversation was unnanimously ended shortly afterward